You are alone just like the others

There are things that keep popping up. Fun things mostly. In 1999 I saw the B-52’s live in L.A..It was for me always a in between band. But funny for sure… Own private Idaho.This is a phrase taken directly from the 1980 dance pop song, “Your Own Private Idaho” by the outrageous party band,  the B-52’s. It means “living inside an Idaho potato“, or a very small space. Metaphorically, it refers to someone who is not paying attention because he is daydreaming, or under the influence, or otherwise wrapped up within his own very narrow sphere of interest or frame of reference. Car Driver: Damn! That guy just pulled out in front of me as if I weren’t here! We almost crashed! Passenger: Yeah, he’s just yakking away on his […]

Rapport is all you need

there is a thing that is called `Rapport`… it is the perfect Tango…. the ability to relate to others in a way that creates trust and understanding… and to make sure the others relate in that way to you it is not just a skillset… it is an attitude and above all realisation that ‘communication is the responsibility you get’ Which in it self is a hard nut to crack… who starts first …. both should think and believe that wayspecially for children it is important to learn about Rapport…- as most ‘grown ups’ are addicted to their self system and often stupidity-…the ability to make rapport the most important thing to remember:people who are not in rapport with them selves ………. incongruent […]

Simple difficult

Simply difficultThe fragility of life lies in every child’s eye. The love and softness.Unimaginable they say to imagine what others feel or think…Mean whilst our body reacts physically with the same posture, hormones, neuro transmitters and all other reactions when we compare.History has many completely idiotic examples where people cross the line of what we would call human.L.F. Celine in ‘Mort a Credit’ describes the insanity of the trench warfare…. He could not understand why people would shoot to kill at each other… instead of the mean have: talking…The longer you are in your trench the bigger the possibility of red mist and cognitive dissonance…Now you would say: the trench gives you a perfect moment to think…. Sitting and waiting […]

the book about the prostate is coming

Robert Moore and Douglas Gilette talk about rediscovering the archetypes of the mature MasculineTheir means to that end are the roles ofLoveKingWarriorMagicianIt is the title of their book. It does not surprise us that there is a Jung adapt at work.As much I historically respect Jung, it is hard to take his archetype approach serious.And just here we are at the essence of many problems…’You are like that…’ ‘It is your character and your nature’And more of these beautiful linesMy suggestion is that you read‘The Notebooks of Malte Laurids Brigge’ by Rainer Maria RilkeIt will put Jung where he belongs….Carlos Castaneda had a few lines in his psychedelically book The learning of Don Juan…More open and slightly insane … fun to […]

Afscheid 22 Goodbye Farwell Abschied

Be idiotic  Who has your remote control?Who or what did determine your moves and desicions Lifes walk ?A pittyful society dominated by media Politicians, religious “leaders”?Music?Writers? Money? The family?Who or what created that influence that brought you where you are.Next is how to reset Is there a reset??Alpha is made up as well as Omega. School and education institutionalised and hospitalised The notion of humanity that all turns around humans and their relationships blinded for the essential myth life is.How to say goodbye to the taught of remote control? By remote viewing? Realising that our senses are not limited by their definition…?it is about time to say goodbye to a lot and realise the true essence your life without insanity of imaginary […]

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 A deeply rooted believe in meMade me an observerI must have been 12 or even youngerA voyeur if you want to call it thatthe believe was and Is that I cannot connect to anybodyI just did not and mostly do not a want itthe good news is that I have been in a lot of different worlds Now I realize that we are what we createHence we hang out with the wrong peer groupTime is valuable and abstract Lots of people believe that WE as a human raceTherefor the content of our life…, where we are concerned withWhat gets our attentionthey believe that we or they ….Are the measure of thingsmore or less:That the essence of our life corresponds with what others […]

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There are people who run… they feel they have toImportant is that they realize they have a home to come back to… not only collecting ‘new fish’ but valuing the existing In L.A., Anaheim to be precise, Hans said: ‘Everywhere you go there YOU are’. In other words you always take yourself along. You cannot hide from the past. You might change your believes…Notice that a sharp focus and tangible skills will change your energy in a positive way. You do not want to be to German about things… very often a ‘one time convincer’…. One ‘experience’ dominates their opinion. The flexibility that one needs to adapt is a pearl.Look at things more than once… When I was 20 my life was dominated by […]

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Hoe lief’lijk de stem. Hoe zacht de ziel…. Mijn hond kijkt mij aan… Van Morrison zingt zacht op de achtergrond…..iets dichterbij….. Handel’s dixit Dominus kan dat Bach overtreffen…?Een oma neemt tijd alles waar te nemen….terwijl zij zich in de tuin aankleedt …de groeve in het gezicht ademend….’Ik wist niets en weet niks… Van emoties heb ik later gehoord’. 93 is ze zegt ze. Alle perspectief is weg…. Terwijl er onderwijl zintuigen de resten benuttenHet is voorbij en gelopen… wat wrange observaties lijken de enige uitweg als ware het de schimmen van Luís Vaz de Camões die door Slauerhoff nog 1 keer tot leven gebracht wordt… We hadden veel te ontdekken… in 20ste eeuw steeds onszelf… in 21 ste de laatdunkendheid van de […]

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 StilRien….. was t prachtige zinnetje van Louis xviLouis XVI, the Royal Hunt and Bastille DayWhen Louis XVI wrote in his diary Rien (“Nothing”) on July 14, 1789, it did not mean that the King was oblivious to the events in Paris. On the contrary he had taken measures to prevent the unrest, in particular by posting foreign regiments in and around the capital. Those measures proved unsuccessful, and even counterproductive, but it is undeniable that Louis XVI and Marie-Antoinette were extremely concerned.Naar de maatstaf van Maslov moesten we wel aankomen bij zelfverwerkelijking ….Clare Graves zou in the spiral dynamics test nog een stapje verder gaan in de identificatie van gedrag ten opzichte van maslov…. De holistische non materiele wereld is irrelevant en […]

The big goodbye in the now 17

HallucinationsWe can go back far further…. But a fine example is …George Herbert Mead’s  symbolic interactionism theory…. The humans struggle to live in the now…. Whilst they often see the now overruled by habitual behavior system structures from the past (unconscious memories) and hallucinations about the future.Next to that….Perception is one thing… observation another …thinking …..It is thought that our brains can, in fact, respond to information that’s much briefer than this, lasting less than a quarter of a millisecond… the moment you respond to that as sensing it (See, hear, feel, taste, smell… selftalk) you are miles away into a divine new universe… the influence of the world around us and within us are interesting contributors…the now floats away…But […]