We shape our future in the decisions we make

Some people would even call it destiny… that we shape. a Lot can be changed again. With warmth and willingness.If we talk about the interaction with others, just remember these lines.Take some time to think them over. It will free yourself of slavery of being negativity toward others and yourself.  DecisionsAll that bring success carry simple truths: the search for the best possible methods. Using your full potential beyond what you believed possible. Being positive and non-judgemental towards others. searching for love and harmony and knowing you are the change. Just a few lines to think about Respect for the other person’s model of the world.In order to communicate properly it is important that you have an understanding for the other person’s model of […]

Good Friday

it remains quitewhat you say is a small fraction of what you could utteron a small scale, in our micro world of relationship and ways of life, most of us tempt to choose for silence when it comes to taking a standthat is not much different on a macro levelit is world wide issuethe simplest of solutions is always: just say noor in other words: “Kill the dragon when it is small”there is of course the hit pointCan we influence? Should we? When can or must we interfere?Can we recognize the ‘dragon’ . is the most hindsight excuse.How often do we slip slide away in a new reality that is moving us in a direction where we did not pay […]

Sick man Fraud…(Sigmund Freud)

so… Sigmund Freud Says….; Einstein says…; Tesla…. On and On… there are people who quote and are ‘quoted’…Quoting might give the impression that you know the source… even  be …..scientific…. that you might have read all the work of a certain person…It might also free yourself of further reseach as the responsibility lies with somebody else.Quoting might be eloquent in giving the credentials to whom they belong.Extented Quoting is a way to divert and use somebody else to say what you would like to say…WHYYYYYYYYYY?What it is in people’s head that they feel like quoting…That they write things down and make it as it was from a certain person.. without knowing where it is from exactly….  One might assume that the quoter […]

method acting?

There events in the world that might change or influence our perception and even our behaviour.We know a movie is a movie. A song is a song. Tv is Tv and so on. What is reality? Always a nice question.I tempt to believe that movies, books, songs and art really influence peoples everyday’s believes and actions more than all politics and much other stuff. The entertainment value is an important asset there. Will talk about that later in different writings. The circus around the elections in the USA does not differ very much of other countries it is just -like everything in the USA- bigger in its insanity. Insanity starts where one person believes he or she can rule a country. I […]

Alles is opgezet

 Over NaturalisIk loop uit onderwijs gebouw 3 LUMC Leiden, het onder-wijs gebouw waar ik een training gaf.2 kleine meisjes met stapels dieren in vele varianten in den handen. Ervoor, ietwat gebogen als Awater zelf… de opa.“Dagje Naturalis ervaren?” vraag ik monter.De meisjes roepen beide “Jaaaaahhhhhh”.De Opa: “Zolang het nog kan, voordat het wordt wegbezuinigd. In de politiek zitten geen mensen met visie op cultuur en alle jeugd haakt af.”Een van de meisje wil iets tegen hem zeggen. “Nu niet, ik ben in gesprek met deze meneer”.Hij reutelt wat door. Welbespraakt en aandachtig, als zou ik er iets mee weten te doen.Hij vraagt letterlijk: “Waar moet het heen, wat is de oplossing?”De meisjes kijken mij vertwijfeld aan. Wij met ons 3 […]

Revolving door at Easter

 In my new universe as being host and owner in a café/restaurant, there is a part of me this part of me that has been manifest for as long as I can remember:Observing the playful, tragical and any other sketch in my universe.‘Life in a nutshell settings’.Not one holds truth, for I am not a guy from abstract ethicsMore I am attracted to the aesthetics. Movements, paths, gestures, style and such…The scene: At the end of the day, early evening, 2 youngsters were in the house. The one left as the other came in. Both 16.1 a streetwise, dressed casually and very open young man. The young Nicky Cruz (to stay in terms of Easter).He came in. Saluted the few clients […]

Johan blijft

‘Als ik zou willen dat je het begreep, had ik het wel beter uitgelegd‘, JCHier in een klein stadje in Duitsland kent geen mens Johan.Mijn hart sloeg over toen ik het bericht las.‘Dood is de enige zekerheid’, was de reactie van mijn tafelgenoot. Kil en koud. Mijn jeugd, mijn leven lang heeft de man me geboeid.Ik poogde vergeefs noch een anekdote te starten. Wilde video’s laten zien. Citeren uit zijn boeken van en met Pieter Winsemius. Vertellen over zijn school, de voetbalveldjes, de talloze initiatieven. Natuurlijk al voetbalbeelden. De film nummer 14 die ik in de Rex in Leiden gezien heb.IJdel, dus haakte ik af. Schoof mijn stoel voor m’n bureau en zocht op laptop weer eens wat en hoe. […]

Food for thoughts, just for fun

 You know that there are answersThere always have been answersIn common they all have that they create a trance induction. Hypnoses: selecting one part and turning it into the whole.Nature itself was drown upon to give birth to the myth of lifeNature facilitated Gods and demonsCivilisations created myths and sages around themSo ideals and values were connected to supernatural identitiesMonotheism came with one Yahweh ElohimOk there came 3 out of themThe Holy Spirit connected allIn the Far East the light became EnlightenmentSouls were searching, or better… some soulsSo institutionalising cameReligion with rules and boundariesEthics more and more ethicsMathematics to structure belief in cause and effectPolitics as attempt to make a human systemSociology and psychology in order to frame behaviourEconomics to […]

The thing that is called fantasy

So we live in reality tunnels. There is no fixed point of arrival, except for where we are.More over, a lot of people hold what they know for the world they live inThey perceive it as suchCould it be different?And we knowWe just cannot seem to grasp what there is more out thereNot only because of simple conditioning of habitsIt is thoughtful sensory awareness, as I might call itThat allows us to touch the myth instead of just ploughing through the fields of the everyday lifePlayful the field were we acknowledge that are senses our bounded by the sheer definition of what they are telling usSo brain doctors state that on a sub liminal level there is more that we […]

Ode aan mijn moeder

 ‘Als u niet in de hemel komt, dan moeten we toch eens een hartig woordje met den Heere God van u spreken”, zei ik de vrouw in gedachtenis mijn moeder ook.“Kom ik in de hemel?”, was de vraag die de lieve vrouw van 76 jaar me stelde. Haar man in de ‘zorg’ zo’n stoel die een man op leeftijd dan min of meer toehoorde. Hij zat in een andere kamer, half blind en incontinent sinds een jaar of 7.Ik zelf was koud 23 jaar oud en werkte als adjunct directeur in een bejaarde verzorgingshuis. Beleefde daar dat mensen, die 3000 gulden per maand betaalde voor half wassen verzorging, omkwamen in eenzaamheid en vragen.“Godswegen zijn duister en zelfden aangenaam” , had […]