If you listen you hear more

Perhaps the finest starting point in living is to listenwith all your senses…. in Verbal speech the ability to let somebody finish a sentence without interrupting it half way with your thoughts.If you notice ones to often that it repeats itself, in what is being said…. you might consider an other peer group.There are words, lines, poems that I have been reading over and over again. ‘I’ was 18 , the right age , when I readRainer Maria Rilke’s Die Weise von Liebe und Tod des Cornets Christoph Rilke(Erste Seite)Reiten, reiten, reiten, durch den Tag, durch die Nacht, durch den Tag.Reiten, reiten, reiten.Und der Mut ist so müde geworden und die Sehnsucht so groß. Es gibt keine Berge mehr, kaum einen Baum. Nichts […]

Het Verboden Rijk

Slauerhoff op z’n best Vreemd, dat ik van de aarde af moest zijn, om mij weer zeker van mijzelf te voelen.Mijzelf. Ik ben nog niet oud, en heb al verleerd te leven. Ik wilde mij eenzaam bewaren en ben in aanraking gekomen met al het vuil, dat de wereld opbrengt.Ik voel mij grauw en klam, ik kan die neerslag nooit meer van mij afspoelen. Zal ik ooit weer van het leven kunnen drinken zonder weerzin, en een wind, niet verpest door de walmen van rottend schip of menschenbarende stad, uit zee, uit het zuivere, als een streeling langs mijn huid voelen gaan? En loopen door een pijnboomwoud, alleen mijn schaduw bij mij. Mij laten omvloeien door een koude beek, mij laten […]


Silence for the third place an orientation We create time and pleasureShare moments where we inhale and exhaleWhere we work, do researchShare feelings, laughter, thoughts, suggestions, art.Where you can celebrate  your  anniversary, your success, your wedding, company partySo we are in a time frame that is newIf you go out to a café or restaurant… you move… the location to share your energy or to be on a place where others do soYou shareThe time that we lock ourselves up in front of the tv in our own living room away from the worldAre overWe want to live lifeBe inspired, be part and sometimes be alone in a public space We want to eat decent food of choiceHealthy, low carb, vegan, honest […]


Zijnsvergetelheid we bevinden ons niet tegenover maar in de wereldDe warme blik, de zachte oogopslag geeft kracht aan je relatieLaat jezelf versmelten juist door de respectvolle ontroeringAls je even in en bij de ander bentDe kleinste details eigenstandig vervullenLucide als in een droom omgeven laat Al de betekenis schuilt in het laten oplichten van wat deWaar ge nomen hebt De zuiverheid verbindt immer, roep direct ook de tinteling aan van alle herinneringen aan mensen die uit je leven gegaan zijnOok momenten , gebeurtenissen…  Veel te vaak denken over onszelf na in relatie totwat anderen denkenGevallen aan de wil van anderenHet leven wordt mooier als je er meer bij stil staat  wat je zin-tuigen ervaren Wie fühlst du dich?‘Neem belangrijke beslissingen alleen als je jezelf […]

let us talk about love

 The simplest of all is attention. For your mind, boy , soul and spirit. Here I do not mean self-love with 10000 selfies but being you and being congruent loving.If you need to show the world ‘how balanced and loving’ you are… we call that window-dressing and the focus is not on you nor on the other. It is just a gimmick, an attempt to be somebody in somebody else’s eyes.Before love comes attention. Experiencing and noticing the finest of details comes first. The ability to be alike and search for ‘rapport’, sameness one might say.With sharing love comes awareness and responsibility towards each other.In normal situations you want to please the other and make him or her happy.The gastronomy […]

Soften More

Soften MoreWas a line I heard in a seminar in L.A. In Anaheim to be exact. Just behind Disney Land.I was out and about in California. In the United (Emotional) States. Not 18 anymore only 37.A 8 week seminar on perception, communication, hypnoses and psychology.As a child I spend hours looking at the stars. Could play with flies and butterflies lying in the field.Listened to Al Green, Still in Love with you. Don Mclean’s Vincent. Roberta flack ‘the first time ever I saw your face’; Simon and Garfunkel’s ‘I am a Rock’ and lots of Hildegard von Bingen… Walked or biked to the sea in Katwijk and swam almost every evening.Feeling of the water, the sand, hearing the warm whispering wind […]

Who the hell is Hamlet?

Hamlet was right…..‘Thus conscience does make cowards of us all` (1609)Fear follows conscience?What possibilities do we have… we stand and look… know what is the right thing but … scared as a rabbit who looks into a cars lights you paralyze….Throw up the phone, turn off the radio, shut people up….so run away from insecurity…Do you know that you waste away your life if you in a schizoid manner provoking yourself in  persisting in hiding from any kind of consciousness?Do you jam your internal dialogue with music, moving pictures, opposite affirmations.We live in a Greek-Christian reality, at least here in the west, a very much Value based world.All the virtuous of the Greek and Roman Gods dwell in your mind […]

The virtue of values….

So we live in the west in a Greek reality. Value driven assisted by beliefs. We have a constitution mostly finding his origin in the mid 19th century. We got a right to vote, if you look at that line…. Who is the party that says: ‘Oh give them their vote…’ It meant that there was pressure from larger groups and Politicians with an Ideal and vision. True history humanity has proven to be completely insane and able to be great in achievement. One might say that a large group is able to use their brain and body in a proper way and could think for themselves. There would not be so many law books if we would more often degree on […]

The beauty and power of insecurity

A genious is somebody who discovers new things in a different wayThe beauty and power of insecurityBe sure enough to be insecure A brief introduction to a course we have been giving for 15 years. A teaser, so that you come to think about it and work with us.Insecurity could lead to fear.. What kinds of fear do we know… Accept for dying, being abandoned, being judged by others, for the unknown, of making the wrong decisions, that you will not make it, that you do not earn enough, loose friends, of having to little self-confidence, no status, no friends, or just the fear of missing joy in your life Paul Verhoeven: ”Insecurity brings creativity!”Robbert Dijkgraaf: ‘A life with no excuses is the […]

You become what you believe

 Let us talk about life.  Your life and my life. Our life! The times of our lives. How we spend it, what we do. When we are healthy, when we are in love, when we are terribly ill.When we are in the streets, at home.. where ever we are we are living. Everywhere you go, there you are. Beyond our 5 senses connected with something bigger and with our 5 senses intense connected to our world.Next to the senses we have our thoughts and feelings. Feelings because of what we experience with our senses externally or because what we think or feel internally.If we just take lung cancer and Heart failureWe come strongly in the top 3 of causes of […]