Revolving door at Easter

 In my new universe as being host and owner in a café/restaurant, there is a part of me this part of me that has been manifest for as long as I can remember:Observing the playful, tragical and any other sketch in my universe.‘Life in a nutshell settings’.Not one holds truth, for I am not a guy from abstract ethicsMore I am attracted to the aesthetics. Movements, paths, gestures, style and such…The scene: At the end of the day, early evening, 2 youngsters were in the house. The one left as the other came in. Both 16.1 a streetwise, dressed casually and very open young man. The young Nicky Cruz (to stay in terms of Easter).He came in. Saluted the few clients […]

Johan blijft

‘Als ik zou willen dat je het begreep, had ik het wel beter uitgelegd‘, JCHier in een klein stadje in Duitsland kent geen mens Johan.Mijn hart sloeg over toen ik het bericht las.‘Dood is de enige zekerheid’, was de reactie van mijn tafelgenoot. Kil en koud. Mijn jeugd, mijn leven lang heeft de man me geboeid.Ik poogde vergeefs noch een anekdote te starten. Wilde video’s laten zien. Citeren uit zijn boeken van en met Pieter Winsemius. Vertellen over zijn school, de voetbalveldjes, de talloze initiatieven. Natuurlijk al voetbalbeelden. De film nummer 14 die ik in de Rex in Leiden gezien heb.IJdel, dus haakte ik af. Schoof mijn stoel voor m’n bureau en zocht op laptop weer eens wat en hoe. […]

Food for thoughts, just for fun

 You know that there are answersThere always have been answersIn common they all have that they create a trance induction. Hypnoses: selecting one part and turning it into the whole.Nature itself was drown upon to give birth to the myth of lifeNature facilitated Gods and demonsCivilisations created myths and sages around themSo ideals and values were connected to supernatural identitiesMonotheism came with one Yahweh ElohimOk there came 3 out of themThe Holy Spirit connected allIn the Far East the light became EnlightenmentSouls were searching, or better… some soulsSo institutionalising cameReligion with rules and boundariesEthics more and more ethicsMathematics to structure belief in cause and effectPolitics as attempt to make a human systemSociology and psychology in order to frame behaviourEconomics to […]

The thing that is called fantasy

So we live in reality tunnels. There is no fixed point of arrival, except for where we are.More over, a lot of people hold what they know for the world they live inThey perceive it as suchCould it be different?And we knowWe just cannot seem to grasp what there is more out thereNot only because of simple conditioning of habitsIt is thoughtful sensory awareness, as I might call itThat allows us to touch the myth instead of just ploughing through the fields of the everyday lifePlayful the field were we acknowledge that are senses our bounded by the sheer definition of what they are telling usSo brain doctors state that on a sub liminal level there is more that we […]

Ode aan mijn moeder

 ‘Als u niet in de hemel komt, dan moeten we toch eens een hartig woordje met den Heere God van u spreken”, zei ik de vrouw in gedachtenis mijn moeder ook.“Kom ik in de hemel?”, was de vraag die de lieve vrouw van 76 jaar me stelde. Haar man in de ‘zorg’ zo’n stoel die een man op leeftijd dan min of meer toehoorde. Hij zat in een andere kamer, half blind en incontinent sinds een jaar of 7.Ik zelf was koud 23 jaar oud en werkte als adjunct directeur in een bejaarde verzorgingshuis. Beleefde daar dat mensen, die 3000 gulden per maand betaalde voor half wassen verzorging, omkwamen in eenzaamheid en vragen.“Godswegen zijn duister en zelfden aangenaam” , had […]

Not very font of Ethics

 The moral thing is a pain in the ass and misused in many ways.So how to preach without preaching? Stop doing it, would be my suggestionWe could read Seneca’s Letters on EthicsAnd notice how long we are trapped in the real of this framework. It is an old Greek thing… this moral thing and thinking it over…On the other hand Chamfort is clear:“In ethics, as in physics, everything is a mixture, nothing is simple nothing is pure”So it is nice to play with… at a certain level. That requires a bit depth in the discussion and taking time to get into it.We all know that morals are being misused in many ways. It is often an empty finger-pointing mechanism to get people on […]

Lou Salomé

LebensgebetGewiß, so liebt ein Freund den Freund,Wie ich Dich liebe, Rätselleben –Ob ich in Dir gejauchzt, geweint, Ob Du mir Glück, ob Schmerz gegeben. Ich liebe Dich samt Deinem Harme;Und wenn Du mich vernichten mußt,Entreiße ich mich Deinem ArmeWie Freund sich reißt von Freundesbrust. Mit ganzer Kraft umfaß ich Dich!Laß Deine Flammen mich entzünden,Laß noch in Glut des Kampfes michDein Rätsel tiefer nur ergründen. Jahrtausende zu sein! zu denken!Schließ mich in beide Arme ein:Hast Du kein Glück mehr mir zu schenkenWohlan – noch hast Du Deine Pein.  So Lou Andreas Salome. A fascinating woman and life.Comes awarenessso let emotions be in all shape there to share.‘Freundschaft’ Rätsel sind wir allen. Myths and miracles That should be our -and yes mine and yours- approach to life and friendship:the wonderful journey […]

Tim Minchen: A human being with passion and no long term goal

Shares beauty


I associate like mad. A lot of things I hear and see make other things I heard, have seen and experienced pop up.

Not very decent to start with an other video when you want to show appreciation to a person and his work.

So I … I did. Just for the setting.

Take time and listen, look, read, think… 

But do ask you to take 25 minutes, perhaps more of your life to be inspired by Tim Minchen*.


It is always worthwhile to meet great new people. Most often they them selves and many others know that they are there already for a longer time… A little journey on the web brought me him.

I have given a lot of speeches myself and respect any other that take time to share. I might not like all of his opinions and approaches, but who cares.. I value this man a lot..


A lovely doctorate speech made me curious and I started searching for more about this man from (for me) down-under Australia.

The first video is a bit long. But still look at it and listen.

To support you. A brief outline of his 9 lessons in life.

  1. You do not need to have a dream
    1. Short term goals
    2. Be aware
    3. No long term dream
  2. Do not seek happiness
    1. Is like organism (where is the blood)
    2. Make others happy
  1. It is all luck
    1. To be here
    2. Lucky that
    3. Work hard, you did not made your power source
    4. Empathy is intuitive but something you can work up on
  2. Exercise
    1. Sport, yoga
    2. Take care of your body
    3. Depression defeated by exercise
  1. Be hard on your opinions (are like assholes.. everybody has one)
    1. Constantly examined
    2. Art can be connected to science
    3. Science is a term
  2. Be a teacher
    1. Amazing
    2. Share your ideas
  1. Define yourself by what you love
    1. Pro stuff not anti stuff.
    2. Express your appreciation
    3. Praise to who you admire
  1. Respect people with less power then you
    1. Judge people about how they treat the less powerful
  1. Do not rush
    1. You need to do what to do with rest of your life
    2. Take time, do not panic

Do not seek meaning…. i am a romantic…. You soon be death

One thing to do with empty existence: 

Fill it

Learn, Be proud, Share, be compassionate, Love, Sex, Art, climb mountains Ect.

Other nice things

 More about Tim




viktor Frankl

 ” Pretend that you are living your live for the second time, so imagine the situation where you are going first”(Victor Frankl)Sometimes you need some inspiration. Frankl in his books gives inspiration. There are moments that you feel you are locked down in a universe that is narrowing you down. That closes down all the possibilities you know you do have. You just have a hunch that there is more… Or, as in the case of Frankl, you find yourself in an insane reality tunnel and are looking for a way out.In our every day life we encounter situations that are complex and against all odds. You and me are raised with certain believes and patterns, we might call them values.Simple mum […]

Be accountable for what you do and watch!

 Part of world history shows patterns. It also directs us to certain approaches to give meaning to life.The most common are the values and basic beliefs.The urge to be a good human being is the obvious direction for all people.‘Everybody is doing the best possible with the means they have. The current behavior is the best possible for the person in the given situation’, is a quote from the world of communication.Directed by the drive to stay positive, ‘knowing’ that judging is mostly not the best settlement for adaptation and learning.In our behavior we find ways to rationalize everything towards to level we can live with it. We want to come across as being accountable for our actions.Subsequently we always […]